Parents/Time is on our side

1. Remember a day is as a thousand years to the Lord.
2. Continue to pray for your loved one to come out of the life style.
3. Recall the stuggle you may have had in a particular sin. God worked and delivered you over time.
4. God’s timing is perfect.
5.  If you raised your child in the Lord then pray the word in their heart will be revived.
6. Be patient, kind and love your adult child and wait to see the salvation of the Lord in this area.
7. Remember God is the same yesterday, today and forever.
8. Pray God will remove their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh.
9. Hug your adult child.
10. Don’t grow weary in well doing.

After the Election: Jesus Will Be the Same Yesterday Today and Forever.

Obama is now our President and as Christians we will pray God’s wisdom upon him. We will support him and we will pray he will hear God’s voice regarding the issues that concern us as Christians. One issue that comes to mind is the Abortion issue. We pray that this new president will have a heart change on the murder of the unborn.  Another issue is same sex marriage. Legalizing it does not change how God feels about same sex marriage.  Jesus is the same today yesterday and forever. He did not approve of it back in his day and he does not approve of it today.  God’s word does not change. Abortion is murder and same sex marriage is wrong.  It doesn’t matter how many people vote for it or the laws that say it is Ok it is still wrong.  Remember Jesus is the same today, yesterday and forever. God’s word is right and what we live by as Christians.

Ten Rights of Parent’s of Adult Children with SSA

Ten Rights of Parent’s of Adult Children with SSA.

1. You have a right to want and desire to see your Adult Child set free.

2. You have a right to speak the truth of God’s Word to your Adult Child.

3. You have a right to Love your child unconditionally and still speak truth to them.

4. You have a right to let your Adult Child know that everyone in the world may think this life is Ok but God does not.

5. You have a right to not take abusive talk or language from your Adult Child.

6. You as a parent have a right to be treated with respect and dignity.

7. You have a right to not see things the way the Adult Child does and still love them.

8. You have a right to get counseling and help when needed for yourself regarding this situation.

9. You have a right to not be ridiculed and made fun of because of your beliefs.

10. You have a right to live your life honoring God and his word and sharing this with your Adult Child.

Struggles with the memories of Abuse and Possible Cause of SSA

This past week I recalled being about 6 years of age which would have made my older brother 11 years of age. I saw in my minds eye my self as a young child standing by the garage. The street light was on and it was dark. We were playing hide and seek with all the kids in the area.  I recall my brother asking me if I had any pubic hair. At six years old the answer was negative. But that opened my mind up to thoughts of why did he ask such a question. Curiosity possibly. 

My brother and I were always close. He tormented me and I am sure as the little sister I tormeneted him.  He was my hero. I loved him dearly.  I tried most of my life to win his love and approval.

When I turned 30 my brother had become a Christian by that time. He told me he was sorry for what he did to me growing up. I had no memory of what he was talking about. He asked me to forgive him and I told him I have no memory. I did forgive him and to this day I only have bits and pieces to this terrible puzzle. A puzzle that some how has affected my whole life. This puzzle was torn apart at a young age and I have spent the last 40 something years putting it back together.

Part of the puzzle was same sex attraction. This didn’t fit in with my views and beliefs as a Christian. I wanted out and I wanted freedom. I didn’t like the emotional enmeshment and I wanted to be free. By the grace of God I am free and encourage others that they can walk in freedom as well and peace.

Did my molestation cause the SSA possibly? Am I bound to be under the restraints of sin? No. I can walk and be free in and through Jesus Christ.

How to Stop Sinning….

We all sin. Paul the apostle said, “The things I do not want to do those are the very things I do.” “Then if I do the very thing I do not want to do what it is the problem.” :”The problem is sin in my life.

We do not hear much about sin anymore. People in the Christian World are afraid to talk about it. It is as if we do not talk about it then it will go away. Well that is not the truth. It will not go away by ignoring it.

If you have a sexual sin and you want to stop doing the sin then stop. Stop everything that is connected with that sin. Stop thinking about it and focusing your mind on that sin. Stop going to the places where that sin is happening.  If you are watching a movie and those movies, or music, cause you to want to sin then stop doing it. In the Word of God the Bible it states, Renew your mind daily by the washing and the reading of the word of God. It also says to take captive every thought that is against the knowlege of God. But thinking about sex is not against the knowledge of God you say. That is correct it is not as long it is in God’s timming and has God’s blessings. Marriage between a man and a woman is blessed and ordained by God. God did not create us to have multiple affairs or to spend time sleeping around before we get married. God wants us to be Holy as he is Holy. He wants us to take time to know him and his ways. So stop thinking about sexual sin. Take every thought that comes up through out the day and say, “God I am casting down this imagination that is not from you. This thought that is against the knowledge of God. I will not think it or let it have control over my life. I cast it down.  

Stop sinning and each day you take captive your thoughts the thoughts over time will diminsh until one day you will not be tempted in that area anymore.

Why I left the Lesbian Life Style?

Someone asked me to write about why I left the Lesbian Life style. So here goes. I left as I knew I was not able to serve both God and man (or in my case woman). I knew in my heart that it was sin and I knew that God’s word the Bible said it was sin. In Romans 1: 22-32 it says:  

21 For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. 22Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools 23and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like mortal man and birds and animals and reptiles.

24 Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. 25 They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen.

26 Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. 27 In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.

28 Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done. 29 They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, 30 slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; 31they are senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless. 32Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.

When I read this I thought man I do not want to do this any more. I do not want to have a reprobate or depraved mind.  Now some people have read this web site and taken my top ten list and put it on there website and said it wasn’t true and that heterosexual or just as guilty of sin and having a depraved mind. I would have to answer you are right. But my ministry is to women who want to get out of the Lesbian Life Style. But I am letting my ADD get in the way. Lets go back to why I left. I left the life style as I knew God had a call on my life. When I was 18 years old (many moons ago) he called me to have a ministry to women who wanted to get out of the gay lifestyle.  But I kept falling with women. I could not quit sinning and falling back into that familiarity. I would try really hard to quit and say I will not look at women.  But then I would do it I would start letting my imagination run wild and I would fantasize about women and then I would sin with them.  I was just like Paul the apostle who said the thing I hate is the very thing I do. What is wrong with me. The problem is sin. Sin is abounding in my life it is ruling my mortal body. So I continued to go to church and to even go to Gay Churches with my lover. But nothing satisfied me. God was calling me out of the Gay world and into his world. After many struggles and going to many counselors both pro and con in the gay movement. I knew I had to decide to keep trusting God. I had to read my Bible and pray everyday and to take control of my thought life. I had to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.  It did not happen over night. No poof I was changed in an instant. It was a long process it took healing of molestation that happen to me as a child. It took healing of molestation that happen to my daughter who was molested by a friend and lesbian. It took release of thoose who hurt me and forgiving them.From age 18 to age 43 I was not free. A counselor pointed out to me that I fell every five years. I could go five years and not fall into sin with a woman then I would fall.  But in 2000 I fell with a woman I worked with for the last time. I told God if these feelings for women never go away I do not care. I will continue to serve you and to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. I have been free for 8 years now. I do not lust after women or think of them in any way other then as a friend or sister in the Lord. I know a woman who counseled me for many years who told me when I said I was going to quit she said, “Who are you going to quit to?” and she also told me, “It doesn’t matter if those feelings for women never go away you must be obedient to God.” She has been out of the lifestyle for over 22 years. So I wanted to please God I wanted to do what the bible said. and to give up that sin that so easily entangles us. Through reading the bible and taking every thought captive and not dwelling on things I should not dwell on I became free.

If you are tired of living in sin and want to be free from your Lesbian or Gay life style you can be today. Just pray and asked Jesus to come into your heart and save you. Then tell him you want to belong to him and have him living inside you and to cleanse your heart and mind.  Then you stop going to Gay bars and stop hanging around with people who go. Find a church that will accept you and help you to be free. If you need to talk with someone I know plenty of women who would love to talk and counsel you. Bless you and hang in there you can be free.

Get on your knees

Get on your knees

A Thick Darkness

When was the last time you went to your knees to pray for those loved ones of yours who are caught in Homosexuality? With the legalization of Gay Marriage in California I am sure many of us are crying for our children to be set free to not fall in to this trap of Satan. The Lord has been requiring me lately to fall to my knees to pray when praying for those caught in homosexuality. I do not know why but this seems to bring more honors to God when we kneel before him.  

I was reading in 1Kings chapter 8 and Solomon thought it was important to pray on his knees he said:

54 And it was so, that when Solomon had made an end of praying all this prayer and supplication unto the LORD, he arose from before the altar of the LORD, from kneeling on his knees with his hands spread up to heaven.

 55 And he stood, and blessed all the congregation of Israel with a loud voice, saying,

 56 Blessed be the LORD, that hath given rest unto his people Israel, according to all that he promised: there hath not failed one word of all his good promise, which he promised by the hand of Moses his servant.

 57 The LORD our God be with us, as he was with our fathers: let him not leave us, nor forsake us:

 58 That he may incline our hearts unto him, to walk in all his ways, and to keep his commandments, and his statutes, and his judgments, which he commanded our fathers.

 59 And let these my words, wherewith I have made supplication before the LORD, be nigh unto the LORD our God day and night, that he maintain the cause of his servant, and the cause of his people Israel at all times, as the matter shall require:

 60That all the people of the earth may know that the LORD is God, and that there is none else.

 61Let your heart therefore be perfect with the LORD our God, to walk in his statutes, and to keep his commandments, as at this day.

 62And the king, and all Israel with him, offered sacrifice before the LORD.

 63And Solomon offered a sacrifice of peace offerings, which he offered unto the LORD, two and twenty thousand oxen, and an hundred and twenty thousand sheep. So the king and all the children of Israel dedicated the house of the LORD.

 64 The same day did the king hallow the middle of the court that was before the house of the LORD: for there he offered burnt offerings, and meat offerings, and the fat of the peace offerings: because the brasen altar that was before the LORD was too little to receive the burnt offerings, and meat offerings, and the fat of the peace offerings.

 65 And at that time Solomon held a feast, and all Israelwith him, a great congregation, from the entering in of Hamath unto the river of Egypt, before the LORD our God, seven days and seven days, even fourteen days.

 66On the eighth day he sent the people away: and they blessed the king, and went unto their tents joyful and glad of heart for all the goodness that the LORD had done for David his servant, and for Israel his people.

I felt I must share the verses with you to the end of the chapter. But I want to share from the beginning of the chapter. In I King 8:12Soloman says, “12Then spake Solomon, The LORD said that he would dwell in the thick darkness.  

 

What was this darkness he was talking about? This chapter references Moses putting two tables of stone at Horeb. This was at a time when the put a covenant with the children of Israel when they came out of the land of Egypt. This was also the time when the priests were going into the holy place and when they came out of the holy place, that the cloud filled the house of the Lord. This cloud was so thick that the priest could not stand to minister as it was so thick. It was the glory of the Lord filling the house of the Lord.

 

That leads us into Soloman and his thick darkness.  We look back at verse 12 of  I Kings 8 states were seen out in the holy place before the oracle, and they were not seen without: and there they are unto this day.  9There was nothing in the ark save the two tables of stone, which Moses put there at Horeb, when the LORD made a covenant with the children of Israel, when they came out of the land of Egypt. 10And it came to pass, when the priests were come out of the holy place, that the cloud filled the house of the LORD,  11So that the priests could not stand to minister because of the cloud: for the glory of the LORD had filled the house of the LORD.  12Then spake Solomon, The LORD said that he would dwell in the thick darkness.  13I have surely built thee an house to dwell in, a settled place for thee to abide in for ever.

 14And the king turned his face about, and blessed all the congregation of Israel: (and all the congregation of Israel stood;)

 

As we look at the world today and the events happening all around us there is a thick darkness. Remember God is still in the misdt no matter how thick the darkness. He is there for us and with us. 

 

 

Your Prayers have been Heard

For Parents, Friends of Lesbians and Gays. Don’t give up praying and do not lose hope. I was reading the other day about Cornelius. Cornelius I felt like yelling like Charlie Brown when his sister tells him about Harold Angel in the Christmas play. He yells out who in the heck is Harold Angel. I digress.  I am reading in Acts the 10^th chapter and up jumps this guy Cornelius. In my entire Bible reading that name doesn’t click with me. Hmm who and the heck is Cornelius. I read further and an Angel of the Lord appears to him and he says who are you man? The angel says I am an angel sent by God and the Lord has sent me here to tell you this, “Your prayers have been heard and the Lord sees your kindness to the poor and the needy.”  Wow what kind of God do we serve that says your prayers have been heard?  Man God cares enough to send an Angel to tell Cornelius this. Now that is a really great God.  The same is true for us today. Through his word God is saying to each and every one of you reading this that your prayers have been heard.  Don’t give up Parents, Friends who are praying for their Lesbian Friend or Gay friend to become a Christian. Know that God sees you and he has taken note of your prayers. Like Cornelius God may give you a job to do so don’t be surprised if God leads you to speak to someone like Cornelius was told to speak to Peter.

Acts 10:31 He told me, ‘Cornelius, your prayer has been heard, and your gifts to the poor have been noticed by God! (Living translation)

Top 10 Reasons to Leave the Lesbian Life Style

10.  In order to get rid of your Reprobate mind.

9.  No more fighting with your abusive lover.

8.  No more feeling like everyone is watching you and staring at you. (Because they are)

7.  No more worring if you look gay. (Because you did.)

6. No more trying to please God and your lover. (You can now just please God)

5. No more feeling like your never good enough. (Becuase you were not)

4. No more feeling jealous everytime your lover didn’t phone or call.

3. No more feeling like you can’t live with out that person. (Because you can.)

2. No more feeling guilty about going to church. (Because now you can go and be guilt free)

1. Heaven it’s a wonderful place. (Now you can feel good about going there)

 

An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth…

When our children leave the path that we have set before them our heart breaks and we wonder where we went wrong.  When they are in sexual sin and they do not want us coming around them as our very existence condemns them. What do we do? We want to pull out the scripture and say, “An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.” But that is not what Jesus came to preach. He preached in Matthew 5:38-39 to turn the other check to those who do evil toward us. Romans 12:20 says, “Therefore if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink: for in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.” Matthew 5:46-48 “For if you love those who love you, what rewards have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? “And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so? Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect.” Think about it.